Support

So... Wednesday Daniel and I went to our first support group for infertility. We were one of 5 couples there. Each couple had a different story. Each couple was in a different area of grief. We learned that I was the youngest, Daniel and I had been married the longest out of everyone there, we were further along in the process than most, and even though we (I) was emotional, I am in a good place compared to some. The instructor herself had dealt with infertility for 10 years. She then adopted 2 boys in the 90's. Some people there had had IVF, some were about to start it, others were still doing testing, etc. We have 5 more classes left but I already feel like it has helped Daniel a lot. (Guys just dont talk about that sort of thing) Ill now talk to a stranger about it, if appropriate. It is something we live with and something that was unknown for so long. But one guy said it best... If the worst thing that ever happens to us is infertility, it wouldnt be such a bad life. Yes this can sound terrible, but there is always adoption or learning to enjoy living child free. I would take infertility over cancer or being paralyzed from an accident, etc.
Anyways... what I have learned from the class so far is that everyone handles this type of grief differently. Some gals in the class can not go to baby showers, have a hard time with the holidays, and don't like family reunions. Me on the other hand, I LOVE baby showers, watch a baby story on TLC and cry (because I know how awesome of an experience it really is, not in pity), love taking care of Rosalie and seeing her grow and become SO smart, and like to talk about my condition. There have only been a handful of times where I need to divert the conversation. Most of the people in the class have been holding back on life. (myself included until recently) I have learned that no one has done anything fun/interesting/cool because they are all holding back on the what if. Anyways... I was told that our next session will be the most emotional/hardest to deal with (I cant remember what its about).