Really... who wants to feel the pain of loosing someone? It can be from a break up, death, cross country move, etc. But for me the hardest is death. This past week, my sister Val and her hubby Josh lost Tim. Tim is Josh's father. I was at Val's house when Josh came home in tears because his father called him with the news that he had cancer. It was hard to see how much pain they were both in. They did everything for Tim. Where Tim was living was not in the best area with the best doctors, etc. SO Tim moved in with Val and Josh. (Really.... Val did everything for him!) Over the course of August to November Tim stayed with them 24/7. Val transported him to and from his doctor visits, saw him at the hospital when he was stuck there for various reasons, got his prescriptions, tended to his different food needs since he got a g tube, etc. I also helped out a lot. I saw Tim and had some good talks with him when I picked him up or dropped him off at the hospital. I checked in on him when need be, etc. So when Val go the call that Tim went to the hospital and had 7 liters of fluid taken from him, we all knew the end was near. Tim had liver failure. A week later, he passed away. Val and Josh got the call to leave to see him before he passed and missed him by 5 MINUTES! The doctors were doing cpr to try to revive him for just a minute. Nothing worked. He was gone.
Once again, Val was the rock that everyone held on to. She called everyone, set up arrangements for the funeral, picked up items for the funeral, got the death certificate, etc. Some how she has held it together pretty well. (as well as anyone can).
So Tim is in a better place, a happier place, and a place without pain. As for Val and Josh... well... it will be a hard road but time will hopefully heal some of the pain.
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